What's really important
This post has absolutely nothing to do with the law. However, it has everything to do with practice of law.
My wife finally lost her 8 year battle with cancer last month. Like so many other cancer victims I have known she suffered through chemotherapy, radiation and all the unpleasant side effects which no one ever tells you about. Pain was an something she dealt with every day; what would keep me home in bed was a good day for her. She was the epitome of courage, and a shining example of how to deal with adversity. Instead of lashing out and feeling sorry for herself, she always looked for ways to make the best of her situation. If you didn't know her you would have never known how sick she really was.
You might say I'm biased because I was married to her for the last 29 years - and you would be right. But I'm not the only one who felt this way. Which gets me to the topic I want to address.
My wife was a teacher, and loved what she did. She taught at a private Catholic school - for a salary far less than she could have received anywhere else. But she didn't do it for the money; she did it because she loved what she did, and loved the children she taught. People frequently talk about finding your passion - and she certainly had a passion for children, and passing on her faith. She truly cared about all the children she taught. And it wasn't just the good ones; I think she worried more about the ones who gave her problems. She truly believed that God was present in everyone - even if they did their best to hide it. She always looked for the best in everyone, and nothing could make her angrier than someone not treating one of her students the same. She was the ultimate advocate, who stood up for her student's on more than one occasion.
When it came time for her funeral the church was packed. There were more students, former students and parents than I would ever have imagined. Two of her former students gave eulogies, and talked about what an impact she had on them. Many more have told me the same thing both before the funeral, and since. Although the stories are different, they are also the same. They all know she wanted wanted was truly best for them, and didn't mind telling them when they were heading down the wrong path, or praising them for the good choices they made.
The older you get the more you realize that death is a part of life. You also start wondering how people are going to remember you. Are they going to be happy you are gone, or grieve at your passing? Ultimately, your legacy is the impact you had on other people. Did you do something to make life better for others? In legal marketing terminology, the question might be if you add value. If you are passionate about what you do, and strive to help others, your life will be a success. Her job was a teacher - but it was more than a job to her. In my opinion she succeeded beyond measure.
Several years ago I read a book by Father Larry Richards called Be a Man. One of the things he suggested you think about was what you want people to say at your funeral. You then live your life with that in mind. Do you want people to say you made a lot of money, or you were on the first page of page of Google or had 1,000 facebook fans? You want people to talk about the impact you had on their lives - for the positive. As lawyers we deal with people in desperate situations, and literally hold their future in our hands. Recognize this and do everything you can to help, and they will be forever grateful.
I realize your former clients probably aren't going to come to your funeral - much less speak at it. But they are going to think about you. What's important is that you treat them just as you would a member of your family (hopefully you get along with them). If you do that you might not get rich, or be the number one lawyer on the internet, but you will have made difference. And that is what's really important.